We have a big bouquet of roses, both red, blue, yellow and pink with one single white rose in the middle. Which one of them do we see the clearest and are more interested in? One of those in the amount or the single white rose in the middle?
We have all our own character and we see, show and do things in our own way and the same is it with love. We see the person that everyone else doesn’t, the one that doesn´t fit in with everyone else. We see the only white rose in that big bouquet of colorful roses. We think that our first white rose is our only one from the beginning, but every rose can easily change color to something else, even if it is the only white rose for somebody else.

But have the community changed our vision of love to only one perspective? That we need to have that special appearance and be the perfect vision of what the society shows us. That all the guys need to have big muscles, be tall, great hair and cannot show real feelings in front of other people. That girls need to have skinny bodies, long legs, sunburned, long hair and be resigned.

Social media and commercials have tarnished peoples vision of how love should look like, which doesn’t make it odd that we see our own love as “complicated” or that we need to ask our self if we are perfect enough. The so called “rewritten rules” is everywhere for how a relationship should be, without thinking of who you are as a person. The lists over perfection can be both long and complicated and young people see it all the time through their screens on their phones and computers, that makes them see things through the wrong perspective because that’s how love should be according to our community. The perfect white rose for us can slowly disappear because we don´t think that person is perfect enough for us because it doesn’t fit in in our vision of love. That perfect picture that gets thousands of likes and followers on Instagram. But what are we looking for? Someone to share our life with or someone that we can show on social media for perfection to others?

We have lists, we have lists over how things should be and how we should behave. It isn´t just one list, they are several. and they can be so long that you never really come to the end. Pictures that shows us the perfect couples and advices for how you know if someone likes you or not. But much of what we read is incorrect in the reality.

I can say through my own experience that I was in the beginning a very strong white rose. But no website or test could have told me how I would experience love in middle school or how it would end. I could never had known that that person should break me so hard that I never would be able to look a guy in the eyes again without tears streaming down my cheeks. I could never have been able to search on the internet to know how terrible he would be, or see those perfect pictures to see that my life didn´t contain that perfection that our society shows us. We create our own perfection, experience and memories with that person we like a little bit more then all the others.

Behind those pictures, how do you think their feelings are for each other? Do you think that all of them is real, is going to last forever or that they mean everything for each other? Pictures taken to show us a false side to show others about their perfect love doesn’t mean that they love each other when the curtains go down and the camera turns off. We see it as the perfect love that we are missing, but in the reality, you have a stronger relationship then they have in that picture. Everyone can hold hands on a beach, it´s the persons feelings that really matters. Both of them can be one of those colorful roses on the edges blending in along the rest and are not that white rose for each other.

Two persons that love each other gives security, consideration and support the other in tough situations. But at the same time, it can be fights and palaver on the way, but it´s how you get through it by showing each other that you really care that matters. Our society takes sometimes away a leaf on that white rose, gives it scars and makes it to corrupt on the inside without anyone noticing it. The Inside of your rose is hidden for everyone to see, how broken you are behind your outer facade that need to be perfect to fit in to the community’s norms. Those tears we cry at home alone is often hidden in the shadows, so no one can see our weakness. We maybe never would be able to show our self on the same way as before but when your broken, white rose exists, your scars are going to come through and if your love white rose changes to one in the amount, you need to know that you still are that white rose in the middle but maybe not for that person. We may all be special, but some secrets can only our truly white rose hear.

Everyone can send you a “I love you” card on your birthday, but it´s only a true one that will make you feel special. Every rose has what you can call its own characteristics, and that´s what your white rose is falling for. You are maybe in two pieces, your leaves broken and not as perfect as the blue once but that doesn’t mean you’re weak.
What do you see in your rose? Do you see your sharp edges, uneven leaves or your broken stalk? Yes, you are, but what do you see in that person you like?
Do you see his or hers to wilt leaves, that he or her are smaller than the other roses, or that it´s missing one leaf? No, probably not because that’s what makes us like our white rose. What your white rose is seeing is a part of you even if you want to hide it in the shadows.

We are all that white rose in that bouquet for someone, we just need to take us out of our community’s norms to show our real color instead of hiding us behind someone else.