Do never allow anyone else project their belief of what you are on you so that it defines your personality, instead let that bad vibe strenghtens the knowledge of their incorrectness.
If its not truthfully syncronizes with your own belief system on what you are, they truly don't know what you are. Nurturing your inner being can and should be your must importent goal on this journey called life.
A true connection therefore feels good.
The rest is up to love.

You and only you, truthfully knows who you are. The more you love yourself, up, down and all around. The better for all of ous living creatures on this planet.
What you feel is therefore, yours and truly yours only progressing being expanding and extracting, exploring contrasting. Loving.

Forgiveness as a key, knowledge to seperate, and love to heal.
Never let anyone else determite what your suppose to feel.